We love our families; but, sometimes, it is challenging to spend time with them. Siblings share so much history and competition for our parents’ attention. And, when years of interaction and hurt feelings are added to the mix, it is a recipe for tension and discontent. While we try to remain neutral, mature and focus on all the positive aspects of our relationships with our siblings, it can be quite difficult. We do not express our true feelings in the name of peace and family harmony. But, quite the opposite is the result. Stifling one’s feelings can only be done for so long. It is inevitable that these feelings will need an outlet. Either one will explode in anger or become sad and withdrawn. Neither result is ideal. What is ideal? Wouldn’t it be nice if we could all share our feelings in a safe, loving manner? After all, these are the same people with whom you share a mom and dad, who were there when you learned about Santa Claus, who played scrabble with you, with whom you built forts and had snowball fights. When did being with your own family members become uncomfortable and tension-filled? How do you bring back that loving feeling? I don’t know. But, I do know that we should express our concerns and hurts in the best way possible. But, when that is undone by our emotional explosions, I suggest we breathe; take a break; seek solace; and pry open our hearts to try and understand each other’s perspectives. And, I also know that love is unconditional. However, presence in our lives is conditional and needs to be based on respect and understanding. So, when a relationship becomes challenging, let us pray for peace and unconditional love. And, perhaps, we’ll stumble onto the path of acceptance and forgiveness.
